Let's talk about love

I watched yesterday a tv interview with a sexologist who was commenting about falling in love and related facts as a key element in facilitating sexual interactions. I only enjoy taking some of the things that call my attention from tv as a pretext for exposing my opinions here cause we know how many stupidities one can see today on tv programs. Well, it called my attention this time that she didn't comment on other types of behaviours associated with that special state of being that is being in love. One can fall in love with many things: places, objects, causes, occupations, artworks, images, writings, etc. I am referring to the fact that falling in love has a wider range of impact in many more areas than only in intimate relationships and that the object of love can't be exclusively a person, that’s a myth –unfortunately too common- that results limitated and limitative in excess. Developing passion and being driven by something is a tool, a process and a goal on itself when one learns to manage it, to care about its challenges and advantages, but according to some professional theories being in love is the same than psychosis, it’s an altered state of consciousness out of reality, at least these were the words of the specialist...Well, although it’s hard to me to understand how she has managed to become such thing as an specialist at all without love for what she studied and apparently practices. We all have heard comments like love is crazy, blind, or that while one is in love make silly things and so on, now it seems that upon more serious perspectives in order to be mentally sane everybody should renounce to love passionatedly or developing for the case any other type of special love that by any mean could relate to an obsessive mechanism. Won’t it be that most of these professionals tend to focus too much in spoting the "buts" in everything we do? Looking at the potential threat of anything is rather to me an stage on any plan development that serves in prevention for investigational matters, it needs to be overcomed by the positive facts, it shouldn't be the general attitude for them to be showing off most of the time. At the end I think that it is that capacity of finding the good and reaching into positive conclusions what makes the difference between excellent and crappy professionals. I mentioned in a previous post that negativity kills people, this is another example, I reckon those dysfunctional professionals are perfectly free to perform their suicidal tendencies but please don't ask me aprove it cause I won't by any mean. If I would believe in what that sexologist mentioned then I should deduct that idealization is not oftenly on their preferred vocabulary and that what they possibly believe is that the best creations of humankind weren't dreamt, imagined or envisioned before being materialised, for them it may be all darwinian, or they maybe have the idea that recognising that man has such fantastic potentials for creating magnificent things leads them to acknowledge that he has the same potentials for destroying. Therefore, would it be better not creating al all?. The problem is their own neurosis and lack of flexibility indeed, their eschlerotic approach to the extraordinary wonders of everyday, the not so common daily stuff. Their way of looking into the human world is more similar to the WYSIWYG -What You See is What You Get- of certain computer languages, as html, etc, however this would be rather too similar to taking persons simply as objects -akas comsumed consumer- and production units rather than as complete individuals, and that sounds I am sorry too old to be true; it's openly like the utilitarian approach of the Industrial Revolution and the mentality of explotation and slavery. I thought we were now in the Digital Revolution and the focus was rather into increasing happiness and fulfilment levels, wellbeing, conservation, responsibility, spirituality and so on. Oh well, I’ll double check how many worlds of the past could still remain in the current one, it’s always enlightening anyway and Analogical is still fine also. It would also be good to know if there are many specialists of human psychology holding such mediocre ideas re. love affairs at the RRHH departments at some companies, I can’t see on how to reach any good quality in anything, same in relationships than in any particular task, without love and mindfulness. And let’s not talk about other realms of negative impact or problems related to love issues such as the lack of commitment and resiliency in couples, the low levels of demographics in wealthy countries, the high statictics of separations and divorces, or impotence and sexual dysfunctions for instance. Call me a romantic or call it an illusion but I find it still too urgent to speak my mind about love matters and passion, I happen to believe that it is love what keeps this world running after all. I have a no pain no gain mentality and ok, loving is very tricky, I'd say the most, but that’s also the reason that makes it feasible and wonderful, valuable and highly rewarding. Love may be crazy but wait to see how crazy the world results if you don’t love.